Relationships: Chapter Two "When is it time?"

Disclaimer: Before getting into this topic, I do not pick sides. I understand both sides of the spectrum, whether you’re one that waits or wants to go for it. You are the only one that can answer the question, "When is it time?"

Everyone has a different insight into how you delegate when it is time to give away the cookie. You know what I mean by cookie. But we never talk about how sacred it is nowadays when you didn't give it away yet. I remember when I was judged immensely for being a virgin when I first got to college. They talk about virgins like they are an urban myth and try to make you feel bad for being one. Which now that I think about it, its kind of funny because every girl isn't out here having that type of fun. It is okay if you are not doing it or if you are doing it, just be safe when you are.

I realized that when you have the opportunity to go away to college, you need to learn to clear the outside noise. Listening to others can get you in some trouble. When you are ready to let go, then you let go of that part of yourself. If you are a person that wants to wait to be in a relationship or situationship, I commend you and applaud you. It is all about patience when you are a young woman or man. But if you are not waiting to be in a relationship, I applaud you as well because you have the strength to know that you can be an individual and not fear that emotional attachment.

Diving into the relationship aspect of "when is it time?" Just because you are in a relationship, does not mean it is time to give away the good stuff. You could be a person waiting for marriage or you could be a nun, who knows? Everyone goes down their own path and sex is a very sacred/serious topic. You can be any type of girl or guy that claims he/she has no feelings, and still take sex seriously. You do not have to prove a point to anyone. Sometimes the moment we don't take it seriously, especially in a relationship, is the moment you are smelling diapers and breastfeeding. Unless you’re secure and both people are getting money and able to spend it on not only themselves yet the child. If not, keep reading.

Sometimes in a relationship, we feel obligated to be in a hurry to give our significant other that piece of ourselves. Like there is some unspoken rule everyone knows about, but you never ever heard about it. That piece we were aching to give away because we had "no control over it." So we claim. Everybody knows how it feels to get "happy" even if you never had intercourse. In a relationship, It is critical to your health, your mindset, and your sanity to let each other take the lead. Not only one spouse calling the shots. This is when pride gets push to the side, and outside noise has to put no effect on you both.

In relationships, it is so important to communicate if you like something, love it, or do not want to do it just yet or at all. Communication is the answer because that is what will make the relationship stronger and indestructible.

When is it time?