Denial...Let it go.

Denial I believe sometimes is sadly the key to survival. At times the truth feels like it can kill us if we don’t change our perception of a situation. If we don’t change our mindset in the situation. Which is easier said than done, but very necessary to make it in adult life.

I had a lot of trouble writing about this topic because it is dangerous. Denial got me in a few horrific situations because I didn’t want to accept the truth. It is defined as the refusal of something requested or desired. I like to think of it as living in an alternate reality. The one where we think we can control the outcome, but always end up in the same place or result. It hurts to let something go or sometimes accept the truth and to fight the urge of what benefits you verse what is tearing you down.

As many may know, it is the first stage of grief. We go numb when hearing someone close to us has passed and find different ways to handle the news. Every so often the best way is denying the information. I understand to confront the painful truth is like sticking a sword through your heart.

For the Marvel fans that have not seen this SPOILER ALERT (If you haven’t or want to see it don’t read next the two paragraphs): I watched WandaVision for the first time last month on Disney plus (yes, it came out like a year ago) and I could not stop. It was about the grief Wanda endured and how far that grief took her. She was in denial.

Wanda thought creating an alternate reality with Vision was the answer to her grief. However, she hurt so many people along the way including her “kids” to prolong the denial. The truth being that Vision was dead and the kids she had didn’t exist. She instead ended up basically kidnapping a whole town and forcing people to be part of a sitcom based on her life (you should really watch it if you haven’t).

It really is excruciating to let go and deal with our trauma. Denial can take place in several parts of your life; it doesn’t only have to deal with death. Therefore, if you notice any signs of it, handle it before it consumes your life. Don’t bring the wrong energy your way or let it swallow you whole because you couldn’t find the courage to face reality. You can do it; you can walk away. Let it go.